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Four girlfriends or finding your true love?
July 27, 2010 | 1 Comment
By Karin ter Horst, a Dutch intern
Again, I learned a lot in my second week in Nigeria. For instance, that’s not necessary to dance in the club at Saturday night; it’s also possible at Sunday morning in the church. Further I discovered that plantain is my new favourite food, especially when it’s around four in the afternoon. Besides I know now what ‘flashing’ means and what the relationship between men and women is.
Several times I made some analyses about the last topic. Maybe it was visible on my face that I was thinking about this brain breaking difficulty. Because some people were asking me what my opinion is about Nigerian guys when I was walking around on the domain of the University in Lagos. It were some people from a local television station who were making a documentary. I told them that I like guys. But in my opinion Nigerian guys like girls more. That was exciting information; I had to give an example.
Last weekend I couldn’t get into sleep because I missed my Internet connection to much. So one of my new Nigerian friends brought me to a bar for two hours of surfing and browsing on the World Wide Web. I only had to pay 200 naira’s while at that moment I should give everything for checking my mail. My friend had the great idea that he was made for some of my Dutch friends. He told me this based on two facebookpictures. I should send her a message to invite her to come to Nigeria and convince her of his great muscles. They would build a beautiful relationship and within two years they would be married. Maybe is Facebook the new way for finding your true love. Maybe.
I decided to give another example to the camera people, because my Nigerian friend is always watching local channels when he isn’t busy with finding his true love. I explained that guys here are very physically and they give a lot of compliments. I’m also thinking that guys have more power related to the girls in a relationship. I spoke some of the boys and one of them told me he had five girlfriends! I made some jokes about it, but I can’t imagine that. It isn’t something to be proud of. I think a girl or woman deserves more respect than that, how many compliments she also should receive.
Guys are very generous in giving compliments and Facebookinvitations. But spending phone credits is more difficult. That’s something I recognized. When I took my phone I saw six missed calls. I called everyone directly back, brave as I am. But I discovered that a lot of people just call you for two seconds as a sign you have to call them back. It’s called ‘flashing’. I felt ‘flashed’ indeed.
The most important lessons I learnt last week is that you have to ignore boys with four girlfriends and you have to pick up your phone within two seconds. Oh! And when you walk into an internet bar, it’s better to buy directly three hours. So you don’t have to upgrade every 30 minutes.
Again, I learned a lot in my second week in Nigeria. For instance, that’s not necessary to dance in the club at Saturday night; it’s also possible at Sunday morning in the church. Further I discovered that plantain is my new favourite food, especially when it’s around four in the afternoon. Besides I know now what ‘flashing’ means and what the relationship between men and women is.
Several times I made some analyses about the last topic. Maybe it was visible on my face that I was thinking about this brain breaking difficulty. Because some people were asking me what my opinion is about Nigerian guys when I was walking around on the domain of the University in Lagos. It were some people from a local television station who were making a documentary. I told them that I like guys. But in my opinion Nigerian guys like girls more. That was exciting information; I had to give an example.
Last weekend I couldn’t get into sleep because I missed my Internet connection to much. So one of my new Nigerian friends brought me to a bar for two hours of surfing and browsing on the World Wide Web. I only had to pay 200 naira’s while at that moment I should give everything for checking my mail. My friend had the great idea that he was made for some of my Dutch friends. He told me this based on two facebookpictures. I should send her a message to invite her to come to Nigeria and convince her of his great muscles. They would build a beautiful relationship and within two years they would be married. Maybe is Facebook the new way for finding your true love. Maybe.
I decided to give another example to the camera people, because my Nigerian friend is always watching local channels when he isn’t busy with finding his true love. I explained that guys here are very physically and they give a lot of compliments. I’m also thinking that guys have more power related to the girls in a relationship. I spoke some of the boys and one of them told me he had five girlfriends! I made some jokes about it, but I can’t imagine that. It isn’t something to be proud of. I think a girl or woman deserves more respect than that, how many compliments she also should receive.
Guys are very generous in giving compliments and Facebookinvitations. But spending phone credits is more difficult. That’s something I recognized. When I took my phone I saw six missed calls. I called everyone directly back, brave as I am. But I discovered that a lot of people just call you for two seconds as a sign you have to call them back. It’s called ‘flashing’. I felt ‘flashed’ indeed.
The most important lessons I learnt last week is that you have to ignore boys with four girlfriends and you have to pick up your phone within two seconds. Oh! And when you walk into an internet bar, it’s better to buy directly three hours. So you don’t have to upgrade every 30 minutes.
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